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the SEX talk with Passport to Purity

Yes, I did just type THOSE letters. Take a deep breath and keep reading. I promise, it’s all good!

It wasn’t long ago that I was almost sick to my stomach anticipating a weekend away with my oldest and THE BIG CONVERSATION (yep, the sex talk) that we were going to have. We both returned from that weekend having grown closer, questions answered, and an open door for future questions and talks. In short, I was so relieved.

That said, my anticipation of taking McKenna (our now 12 year old) out for the night with just me to have the same talk – well, it was MUCH different. I was actually excited because I had one talk under my belt and a love for a program that made the entire adventure fun.

Before I go much further, I will say that McKenna is an entirely different girl than her older sister. Where one is more reserved and self-reflecting, the other is energetic and burns with the passion of a thousand suns (emotionally and otherwise). Dresses vs. sports jerseys. Quite frequently – polar opposites.

McKenna though was very excited to have a night away with me in a hotel, so we started planning a few things to do just as girl time for the two of us, but very different from the weekend I spent with her sister. Truthfully, this was the most stretching time for me just figuring out what in the world we could do that wasn’t girly (no nails painted), but would be fun and memorable.

And we had the BEST time together. Really, this weekend opened up some great communication that has been trickling (and pouring) in over the past several months, something that the two of us have struggled with.

Several years ago we ordered Passport2Purity put together by Dennis and Barbara Rainey from Family Life Ministries. {It’s here that I will insert a note to say that if you are stressed about talking with your kids and not sure how to approach it with your kids, order it NOW to use together}.

Passport2Purity

The Passport2Purity Weekend Retreat Kit is hands-down a fabulous resource for parents to use and covers SO much more than just the basics. During the weekend we talked about friendships, peer pressure, sex, setting boundaries, keeping pure, and dating. While several of the topics having fully come into play yet, our time together gave us the opportunity to talk about things before they were issues and lay some guidelines in place.

Having the sex talk passort to purity

The entire weekend was laid out for us through the parent’s manual that comes in the kit and we listened to audio teachings from the Rainey’s, pausing the cds occasionally to answer questions together and have more heart-to-heart conversations. (Oh you all, this was the BEST PART EVER). .

Passport to Purity journal

McKenna had a blast using her journal {included in the kit} for her to take notes in as well. Prior to the weekend, Rick and I each took time to write her a letter that she read before our weekend away. But she wrote, doodled, wrote some more and has the journal to keep as a reminder of the weekend. It was so wonderful to see her thoughts in place too – people in her life that she considers influential (and yes, she had her sister in there too).

journaling passport to purity

Because she isn’t a girly girl (she is very much against anything that typically involved nail polish), we decided to head to a local pottery place, chose a mug, and worked together on something for her to remember the weekend by. Can you guess what she is making?

minion mug

The end product turned out so cute!!  She loves getting coffee on Sunday mornings, so for her, this was a HUGE treat! Besides that, the mug makes us smile every time we see it or she uses it. LOVE it.

We wrapped up our trip to a local antique mall where she chose a tea cup to use in our sit-downs in the upcoming years. The tea cup is something she can pull out if she ever wants to talk to me about anything, we’ll brew a pot of something, and together we will sit down together to talk. The tea cup also was to represent how delicate her purity is and how gently we need to care for it. She was thrilled to have a special cup for her {it took us nearly an hour to find the perfect one!}.

Over the last several months since our night away, the communication has definitely improved between us and opened up some good (and hard) conversations about things that are happening around us. I am SO thankful because it has given both of us a jumping off point into an otherwise uncomfortable topic.

 

Did you take a special weekend or time to talk with your child about sex and dating? Was there something memorable that you did together to remember the time together?

Note: This post was in no way solicited by Family Life – it’s just simply one mom and dad’s thankfulness for a fabulous resource for families to use! I love that we just need to order an additional journal for each child to use it again.

Registration is Open – Free Parenting Webinar on January 22nd

Get Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling – Free, Live Webinar!

Parenting Webinar with Homeschool Creations

Tired of the yelling?  Tired of the whining?  Tired of being tired? You’re not alone. 

From toddler temper-tantrums to teenage talking back, getting kids to cooperate can be both frustrating and exhausting. What is the key to cooperation? If you’re tired of nagging, reminding and yelling to get kids to listen – you won’t want to miss this parenting session!

Homeschool Creations is excited to partner with Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions & TODAY Show contributor to offer a FREE LIVE training webinar on Tuesday, January 27th at 9pm EST.   Discover proven tools for your most frustrating discipline dilemmas including the 5 R’s of Fair & Effective Consequences. This hour-long investment will lead to a lifetime of peace in your home!

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How to Get Your Kids to Listen – FREE Webinar on January 28, 2014

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Updated 1/30: If you weren’t able to join us Tuesday, watch a replay of the Positive Parenting webinar here. Be sure to also grab a copy of the note-taking pages as well that you can use while listening.

You’ve counted to three more times than you can, well, count. Time out isn’t working anymore. Even rewarding and bribing with candy and toys eventually fell flat. Like most parents, you’re frustrated because it seems like no matter what you try, the same misbehaviors keep cropping up.

Take heart – there are ways to improve your kids’ behavior without nagging, reminding, punishing or yelling and get your kids to listen!  Homeschool Creations is excited to partner with Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and a Today Show contributor, to offer a FREE LIVE training webinar on Tuesday, January 28th from 9 to 10 p.m., ET.

Join us to learn why kids act out and gather simple, positive discipline strategies to encourage your kids to listen and do the right thing. If you’re looking to reclaim your calm voice and restore some peace to your home, this webinar is for you!

All you need is your computer – no webcam required. You’ll see and hear Amy on your screen, and you can even ask questions and she’ll make them part of the presentation. RSVP today and then learn from the comfort of your home.

Space in the webinar is limited, so register soon!

FREE Parenting Webinar – Get Kids to Listen without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling

How can our kids ‘tune out’ our voice and not hear repeated requests to do something? This phenomenon never ceases to amaze me, especially when a mere whisper at other times makes them bolt into action. Needless to say, there are often days when I get frustrated at their lack of listening, and the kids are frustrated with the constant reminding that occurs on my end.

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Free Parenting Webinar

Later this month, Amy McCready from Positive Parenting Solutions is offering a free webinar for my readers, I spent some time talking on the phone with her and thought that it would be something that many of us can benefit from. I participate in one of her webinars and she offers some great parenting tips and strategies {and a refresher for me will be fabulous!}.

On Tuesday, January 28th at 9pm EST, I will be hosting a FREE webinar where you can join in and learn along with us. During the webinar you will get a chance to ‘meet’ Amy {online, of course!} and you will also have the chance to ask questions via the online chat.   If you have an iPad or iPhone, you can use an app called Photon to view the webinar.

Get Kids to Listen without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling Webinar

Here are the official details about the upcoming webinar on Tuesday, January 28th at 9pm EST.

Get Kids to Listen without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling

Why is it so difficult sometimes to get kids to listen? You know your child heard you, but then he ignores you. You ask again and still  – no response. If you are tired of nagging, reminding, and yelling to get kids to listen – this session is for you! Homeschool Creations is excited to partner with Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions & TODAY Show contributor to offer a FREE LIVE training webinar on:

Tuesday, January 28th from 9 – 10 PM Eastern.

~ Join us to learn easy to implement strategies to correct misbehavior and reclaim the calm voice you had before kids.

~ Discover proven tools for your most frustrating discipline dilemmas including the 5 R’s of Fair & Effective Consequences.

~ Learn how your personality may actually fuel misbehavior.

~ Gain training resources to reduce your parenting stress & stop nagging, reminding & yelling.

All you need is your computer {no webcam required}. You’ll see and hear Amy on your screen and you can even ask questions and she’ll make them part of the presentation.

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Note: Although this seminar is not Biblically based, my husband and I have watched several of her sessions and feel there are many practical and useful tips for all families to implement at home.

Discipleship and Discipline: Practical Parenting Help

One of my favorite writers, speakers, and just an overall amazing woman – Sally Clarkson, is teamed up with Sarah Mae to teach a four-part Discipleship and Discipline course. Both of these women are wonderful speakers and have such a heart for moms and families!

Their course was live-recorded, so if you missed their initial webinar, you can still take part in this fabulous class. You can re-watch segments of the program at any time!

Discipleship and Discipline for the Desperate Mom

 

Overview

Day One: Laying a Foundation of Love – Sally Clarkson

Observing God as a parent gives us a pattern to follow as we seek the best for our own children. God extends His love, training, and instruction throughout the Bible for the benefit of His children that He loves. In this session we will cover Biblical principles and practical ideas of how to build a winning relationship with your own children so that their heart will be turned towards you as a parent. Understanding Jesus’ motivation with his own disciples lays a foundation for reaching our own children’s hearts.

Day Two: Loving the Wild One – Sarah Mae

If there is one thing that I get the most emails and comments on it is my precious Caroline, the former “wild one”. I say former because over the last year she has matured into the most delightful little girl. But it took work and time and intention, and in this webinar I will share with you the journey, the ups and downs, and what things have made the biggest impact on my Caroline becoming a genuine delight.

If you have a wild one, I’ll show you how to hang in there with grace, nurture change, and genuinely enjoy your child.

Day Three: Heartfelt Discipline + Your Parenting Questions Answered – Sally Clarkson

Viewing your child from a Biblical perspective will determine how you view the role of discipline in your children’s lives. In this talk, the goals of discipline will be laid out, and practical advice will be given for the different stages of a child’s life. Learning to see each child for the unique design God gave them will free you, as a parent to understand how to reach their heart and motivate them to learn to listen to your instruction and to obey your training.

The second half of this Webinar will be dedicated to answering your parenting questions.

Day Four: Dealing with Our Junk So We Can Parent with Clarity -Sarah Mae

I believe that respecting our children, relating with them, being honest, and treating them as we would like to be treated is foundational for building loving and trusting relationships. However, in order to be able to parent this way, we first need to deal with our junk.

I will talk about what hinders our ability to parent in freedom and what steps we can take to become true and whole so we can parent with clarity.

Topics Covered in the Course

  • How to Raise a “Wild One”
  • How to Instill Excellence in Your Child
  • How to Have a Quiet Time When There’s No Quiet
  • How to Deal with Over-Emotional Children
  • How to Find a Mentor
  • How to Build a Winning Relationship With Your Child
  • How to Motivate Your Children to Listen to Your Instruction and Obey Your Training
  • How to Deal With Your Lies So You Can Parent in Freedom Instead of Fear
  • How to Get Through the Desperate Days
  • How to Find and Nurture Friendships with Other Moms

 

The entire e-course is $17.99, and includes anytime access!

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Talking to Your Pre-teen About Sex and Dating

Talking to Your Preteen

Please tell me that I’m not the only one who broke out in a cold sweat when thinking about have THE talk with my children. Some may say that we should have done it earlier, but with fact that our oldest is 11 and we are homeschooling, we felt we had a little bit of a buffer. A few things recently came up in conversations with our daughter that made us realize that we needed to talk to her soon and be sure that she heard the right things from us – and not bits and pieces from others.

Truth be told, I was s.c.a.r.e.d. and wanting to wait as long as possible and protect the innocence that still exists in our kids. What would I say? What would she ask? {gulp}

This past weekend, Laurianna and I made a special overnight date together, reserved a room in a nice hotel for cheap {thank you Priceline!}, and I planned a few special treats for us to just have girl time together – and have FUN!

And we did!!

Driving to the hotel, my stomach was doing flips and flops, my brain was going a million miles a second thinking of answers to questions that she might possibly have {but never did} and basically worrying about it and stressing myself out. Yes, Rick and I had been praying about the weekend and one would THINK that I would have relaxed a bit. Sigh.

One of the BEST things that we did was order Passport2Purity that is put together by Dennis and Barbara Rainey from Family Life Ministries. {It’s here that I will insert a note to say that if you are stressed about talking with your kids and not sure how to approach it with your kids, order it NOW to use together}.

Passport2Purity

The Passport2Purity Weekend Retreat Kit is hands-down a fabulous resource for parents to use and covers SO much more than just the basics. During the weekend Laurianna and I talked about friendships, peer pressure, sex, setting boundaries, keeping pure, and dating. The best part? Although many of these topics aren’t an issue yet {she’s only 11}, this weekend gave us the opportunity to talk about things before they were issues and lay some guidelines in place.

The entire weekend was laid out for us through the parent’s manual that comes in the kit and we listened to audio teachings from the Rainey’s, pausing the cds occasionally to answer questions together and have more heart-to-heart conversations. Another thing that I love about the kit, is that it includes Scripture memory songs to go along with the teachings from Seeds Family Worship Purity CD. We’ve loaded the songs onto Laurianna’s iPod just for her to listen to and memorize.

Laurianna also had a journal {included in the kit} for her to take notes in as well. Prior to the weekend, Rick and I each took time to write her a letter that she read before our weekend away. My hubby’s letter to her may have made me cry. A lot.

Our time away was just a little over 24 hours, but we really had an amazing time together laughing, sharing, and learning more about each other. Saturday afternoon Laurianna and I had a pedicure to celebrate and then went shopping together at a local antique mall for a special gift to remember our weekend – a delicate tea cup.

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We decided on a tea cup so in the months and weeks to come, if she ever wants to talk to me about anything, she can pull out the tea cup and the two of us will sit down together to talk. The tea cup also was to represent how delicate her purity is and how gently we need to care for it. She was thrilled to have a special cup for her {it took us nearly an hour to find the perfect one!}.

It’s a few days after our trip away and can I tell you how EXCITED I am to have this time with McKenna in a little over a year? And for Rick to have this same time with our boys in the years to come? Thinking of our talk just makes me smile – and so thankful for the resources that are available to us!

Did you take a special weekend or time to talk with your child about sex and dating? Was there something memorable that you did together to remember the time together?

Note: This post was in no way solicited by Family Life – it’s just simply one mom and dad’s thankfulness for a fabulous resource for families to use! I love that we just need to order an additional journal for each child to use it again.

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