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3 Things I’m Loving this Week

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Truthfully there are more than three things that I could list that I’m absolutely loving at this moment, but three seems like a non-overwhelming number to share. :) The below are things we have been using during our homeschool time, two that are new and one that is a favorite and dusted off the shelf for use again this year. 

1. Our new pencil sharpener. It may be an old-fashioned turn-by-hand sharpener, but when our electric one died the first day of school (and caused much wailing from a few children), it was a huge relief when this one showed up from Amazon. I knew our old one was about to go, and it arrived just in time. There are now pencil shavings everywhere and super-sharp pencils on everyone’s desk thanks to children who are more than happy to sharpen everything in sight since this one actually works. 

2. The Cat of Bubastes audio book. If there is one company our family loves listening (and re-listening) to audio books from, it’s Heirloom Audio. The Cat of Bubastes is their latest audio drama focusing on ancient Egypt, set around the time of Moses. We have had this one in the car, and it’s one that everyone enjoys quieting down and focusing on (and laughing, gasping, etc…). There are very few audio books our kids are excited to see and don’t fuss about when they are popped into the CD player, and it is very normal to hear past adventures playing in the kids’ rooms during their rest times.

3. The Draw Write Now series. This set of books has been on our bookshelf for years, but we’ve pulled them off for the boys to use (especially Kaleb) during our history time. For him, it adds in one of his favorite things (drawing) with one of his least favorite (writing), but gives him a chance to practice his handwriting and a small amount of copywork. Right now we’re studying early explorers, so the second book in the series is perfect to go along! We’ve been using our draw and journal printables as we work through the pages and they’ve been perfect. I’m pretty sure we’ve had these books for almost ten years now – well worth the money we paid for them since the kids have used them over and over. 


That’s it for us this week – what are you loving right now?

 

 

Classroom Teachers Who Homeschool

downloadBefore making the decision to homeschool, I taught in the public school system. While the district I worked in was wonderful, I came home first to focus on my family and stayed there when it came time to send our kids to school. The transition from a school setting to homeschool wasn’t always easy. 

Recently I had the FUN of sitting down with Andy (“Fletch”) and Kendra Fletcher from Homeschooling IRL to talk through some of the challenges – and Fletch asked some deeper questions too. If you’ve never visited their site or listened to their podcasts, they are an amazing couple with many more children than our family – and so full of laughter, grace, and wisdom. If they didn’t live in California, well, I’d be hanging out with them a whole lot more. 

In this podcast we talk about a variety of things, including what issues are unique to the classroom, what makes homeschooling different (and sometimes harder), and why not everyone may be equipped to teach every child. 

Head over to LISTEN HERE

 

Struggling with Anger and Frustration

One thing that I do not often talk about here on the site is my level of frustration that builds up often with our kids. I am far from being a patient mom, and it is very much a struggle for me to reign in my emotions at times. Add to that mix a similar-tempered husband and two kiddos that seem to be able to push every button known to man, and there are days that I want to hide under the covers or in the bathroom and count to 10. Or 1,000. 

A reason I don’t share about this – I am FAR from an eloquent writer and often have trouble adequately putting into words how I feel. And I don’t want my words to be misinterpreted or misunderstood, especially when it’s about a subject that I know so many also have issues with – and I am not an expert. I’m right in the trenches with you all. 

Raising kids is not near as easy as it seemed it would be. You know, long before we had children and we had this idyllic world going on in our heads. Back when we observed other parents and thought, “We will NEVER do that with our children.” 

Silly us.  

But back to that frustration and anger, eh? 

When you add to the mix a family of loud and boisterous children, including a mother who isn’t exactly a quiet herself – well, many situations can be culled into the ‘perfect storm’ for disaster, especially when I’m tired and not on guard to control myself and my reactions to situations. It’s hard to know when to step in, when to leave something alone and keep my mouth shut, when to back down, etc…etc… 

Believe me, I’m the first to beat myself up for my attitude and lack of self-control or over-reaction. I get frustrated with myself, feel I am forever a failure as a parent, and then worry how our children will turn out in the future. 

You all – to just interject here – we do have great kids. No, they aren’t perfect. We struggle with similar issues other families do including pushing limits, bad attitudes, and whining, but they really are great kids. 

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A book I’ve been reading lately (and HIGHLY recommend) is Triggers by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake. I’m a girl that needs short chapters to mull and meditate, but there are so many nuggets in the book that get right to the heart of the matter for me – and are ENCOURAGING. 

I don’t know about you, but with my propensity to feel like an absolute failure in the parenting department, encouragement for my heart and direction for the next step is always welcome. Triggers has 31 chapters – umm, perfect to read a chapter a day, no? And lots of great stuff to underline, dog-ear, and refer to on tough days. Or every day.

Here are a few snippets that caught my attention recently. And by ‘caught my attention,’ that means taking a picture of it to send to my hubby, underlining it, dog-earing the page, and copying it down into my journal to review constantly. 

Parents of strong-willed children must choose words that build up their God-design, not tear it down with blame and shame. God didn’t make a mistake when he made them tenacious. You honor God when you honor your child’s hardwiring, even if their personality rubs you wrong. (p. 43)

Ouch. Something I struggle most with is the personality of a child in our home – one that is suspiciously similar to mine (shocking, eh?). There are days I honestly cry an ugly cry about this issue. It’s not that I do not love this child, but it is a sincere struggle for me.

Reading that snippet brought renewed tears to my eyes, but in a different way. I KNOW that God created each of our children uniquely to be who they are, and sometimes it is (and will be hard), but it was the honor part that really struck me. How often do I make that internal decision to mentally stop and remember to honor, rather than run through a mental list of everything that irritates about the personality, focusing on the negatives. Yes, there is conviction in there for me, but also encouragement in how to refocus myself toward honoring both that child and God. 

It’s not my job to strangle them into submission. I am responsible to navigate my own free choices, not control theirs. I can only hold captive my own tongue, leading by example, training them to do likewise. (p. 30)

Oh – I could run with this one. So very, very far. The power struggle can be so very difficult. The home I was raised in left little room for arguing, and while submission to authority is important to understand, there was also very little room for grace. This area is another that I have such a hard time with – finding that balance and understanding the need to lead by example, when so often the need to ‘prove’ who is in charge doesn’t feel like it should be done with humility (especially when the precedent set for me left no room for argument). 

So often my ‘leading by example’ hasn’t been prefaced by humility or holding captive words. Again – convicting. 

Here’s the thing. I know I’m not alone. And admitting we struggle in this area is tough. I know for me, the ‘perfect homeschool mom’ model is one who never raises her voice and is always the example of humility to her family. THAT IS SO FAR FROM WHERE I AM. It’s a daily struggle. Some days and weeks are better than others, but it is a real struggle and an area I am quick to judge myself and feel that I don’t measure up. 

Are you struggling with this area as well? For our family I want to change the dynamic (with the help of Jesus) – and would love to pray for your family as well. If you aren’t comfortable leaving a comment on this post, please feel free to email me directly. 

Hang in there and know you are not alone. Grace to you today and a hug from me to you. 

 

 

What I’m Reading (July 2016) – Reading for Mom

July reading pileMy reading plans for June didn’t quite turn out as I anticipated. When our vacation didn’t happen, most of the reading time I’d set aside (in my head) was gone. And while we’ve been at the pool quite a bit, much of that has been in the role as swim mom and part of helping out a lot with the team. In short – the general craziness of summer. (grins) So much for slowing down, eh? 

The bulk of my reading has been done at night – falling asleep with a book in my hands, and several of the books in my pile have carried over from last month into this month. 

My July  2016 Reading Pile

My 2016 reading list is coming along well, and I’m pulling a few from that list to read as well as throwing in some fun fiction for good measure. My brain needs a bit of a break finishing up the school year and that’s my primary way of disconnecting and getting ‘lost’ for a bit. Here’s how my reading pile is shaping up for the month:

What I read in June…

That’s it for this month! What are you reading for yourself or together with the kids? Leave a comment and share. :)

Gluten Free Salmon Cake Recipe

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Maybe fish isn’t your thing. I get that – our kids weren’t huge fans of it either. But in the last year or so, salmon has become one of my favorite dishes because my body tends to be happier the more protein it ingests, and I happily oblige. When I wanted to make salmon cakes using a recipe a friend had given me, I realized one of the key ingredients (bread crumbs) would cause a problem with my gluten-free friends. Rather than buying gluten-free bread crumbs, I decided to play around with teh recipe – and the results were delicious, especially since the added ingredient included more protein! 

Now granted, the above picture may not be the most appetizing or appealing, but really – I have no time to make it look pretty, because a) it would get cold and b) it smells good and our family wants to eat them. So frying pan picture it is! 

 

Gluten Free Salmon Cakes
Yields 8
a high-protein salmon-cake recipe (that even our kids love)
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Prep Time
20 min
Total Time
30 min
Prep Time
20 min
Total Time
30 min
For Salmon Cakes
  1. 2 6oz. cans pink salmon
  2. 3 Tbsp. mayonaise
  3. 1 egg (or 2 egg whites)
  4. 1/2 red onion, finely diced
  5. 2 tsp Old Bay seasoning
  6. 1 tsp dill
  7. 1 tsp pepper
  8. 2 tsp minced garlic
  9. 1/2 cup cooked quinoa (or 2 slices of bread made into crumbs)
  10. 1/3 cup parmesan cheese
For Frying
  1. Olive oil
Instructions
  1. Drain salmon and place in a mixing bowl. Add in all remaining ingredients and mix together.
  2. Heat olive oil in a pan over medium-high heat.
  3. Once well mixed, form salmon mixture into 4" wide patties with hands and place in frying pan. Fry over medium-high heat for approximately 4 minutes per side or until desires crispness.
  4. Serve with tartar sauce or enjoy plain. Makes approximately 8-10 salmon cakes.
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 We’ve also tried the above recipe with lump meat crab and had wonderful results as well, but typically I make up a batch and store them in the fridge to grab for a lunch at the pool or a quick snack during the week. 

Enjoy!

The Nitty Gritty Stuff

At some point in the summer it has to be done. For me, the last week and a half have been jam packed full with planning for the upcoming year. Sometime the nitty gritty stuff we have to do has perks and downsides. 

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Each year our local homeschool convention is held at the beginning of June. My hubby attended with me this year (typically he comes along every other year), so we looked at curriculum together, sat in on sessions, and it was a great time to purchase up the last bit of curriculum we needed for the upcoming year. It was also a lovely break for the two of us to get away, laugh, and enjoy some quiet without the kiddos. 

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Picking up a chemistry book for our oldest was on the frightening side – not because I’m scared of the subject, but all of the emotions that come along with realizing that she is in the final stretch – well, those are a little overwhelming. Hang in there moms with littles – it goes by SO quickly!

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Before getting there though, it was a mad dash of pulling together curriculum to sell (can you tell where I was sitting in the pile above??), highlighting any new pieces needing an up-close look, jotting down the best prices, and having our overall scope for the year in place so I wasn’t scrambling at the end. For me, that meant sitting down with a friend to put an overview for our group co-op on paper, mapping out a literature program for one class, and also figuring out history for our boys. Phew!

(And silly me jammed that all into the three days before convention). 

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What I (in)conveniently forgot was almost immediately after we returned home from convention, our oldest two set off for a week of service camp in our community – where I also volunteered to help (don’t worry, that van load of snacks isn’t a typical grocery haul for us!). To top it off, swim season is now in full force (did I mention my hubby and I are both VERY active members of the swim team board?). At the moment this all sounds much like complaining – and really, truly, not my heart. Life is full at the moment, and a great kind of very full. 

If you’ve been a long time blog reader, you’ll know that I am typically very intentional about having white space in my calendar, and the place I love to be most is home. Needless to say, the last two weeks have been stretching. A good stretch, but busy and I don’t typically like each other much because that leads to overwhelmed – which is never a fun place to be. 

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So tonight, I sit in my happy place of coloring in our schedule for next year, putting in orders for the last two pieces of curriculum, and then curling up with a book to rest for a little bit. 

How are YOU doing?