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I’ve been reading Sally Clarkson’s book Seasons of a Mother’s Heart and the chapter on building our house {Proverbs 14:1} and there was a passage in it that just jumped out at me…

“Sometimes…I have made the building process more costly than God ever intended it to be. Like other homeschooling mothers who live under the fear of not doing enough, I expected more of myself than God did. Consequently, I set unrealistic goals and higher standards for my children than God required. It shouldn’t be surprising then that I burned out trying to pay the cost God never required. I burned out, not because God was asking more of me than I could do, but because I was asking more of me than I could do. As a wiser woman now, I know that God’s goal for me is that I build a good house, not the best one. After all, if I become spiritually exhausted because I try to build more than God expects of me, then I soon won’t be building at all.”

Sally Clarkson, Seasons of a Mother’s Heart, p. 89

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  1. Thanks for posting this, here is this post that a friend had yesterday on her fb status : A real woman always has a clean house, empty laundry basket, is well made-up, smells good, slim, healthy, eloquent and is perfectly well-behaved. …… Copy this status if you are beginning to suspect that you are a man.

    Have a great day!

  2. Oh the “I’m not doing enough” lies I so believe. Thanks for sharing this Jolanthe. I love Sally’s heart and I’m continually amazed at how her words are like she spoke them just for me!

    Good is enough.
    So needed today.

    • really hoping I’ll get to see her again at Relevant this year!! :) {is
      that selfish??} She sat at our table during one of the lunches and I
      just sat there and hardly said a peep!

  3. I needed to see this today, thank you!!

  4. I hear this. From Feb – March I hit a wall, lost motivation. But all we can do is all we can do, we have to stay mentally healthy and this is where this quote you shared helps. We HAVE to listen to God’s goals for us … it makes for a happier home, happier children and a happier Mother … and as my Husband always tells the kids …”If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody gonna be happy!” (Then they run! LOL)

  5. Oh, I just LOVE Sally Clarkson and her heart for God and for her children! She always inspires me to invest in relationships and draw closer to God! It’s been a while since I read that book of hers. Thanks for sharing that little nugget! I might need to re-read that one after I’m done re-reading The Mission of Motherhood! :)

  6. I don’t know if I cheated or not but I read the Winter Season first and now Spring. :-) I have enjoyed it. I am glad I stuck with it. My dear friend is reading the Whole Hearted Child which sounded good too. OO to have a week or two in a tropical island to read books and soak up the sun.


  7. Wow! This is so right on for me. Recently when my spiritual mentor was praying over me, she told she heard the phrase “high standards” …as in I set high standards for myself and I know this gets translated down to my children and my expectations for homeschooling. I thinking “Seasons…” will be next on my reading list – and pray God readjusts my standards to align with His. :)

  8. Stacy Teet says

    Thanks Jolanthe, I think this passage resonates with many of us homeschooling moms :)

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